摘要：在这个时代的大舞台上，一幕幕戏剧悄然上演，其中有一出，名为“批评与不满”的剧目，正以一种令人啼笑皆非的方式，在我们的生活中缓缓拉开序幕。不知从何时起，批评，这一自古以来被视为教育与医疗领域中不可或缺的“良药”，竟悄然变成了触碰不得的“禁忌”。

在这个时代的大舞台上，一幕幕戏剧悄然上演，其中有一出，名为“批评与不满”的剧目，正以一种令人啼笑皆非的方式，在我们的生活中缓缓拉开序幕。不知从何时起，批评，这一自古以来被视为教育与医疗领域中不可或缺的“良药”，竟悄然变成了触碰不得的“禁忌”。

想当年，师者，传道授业解惑也，手中握有的是知识的钥匙，心中怀揣的是育人的热忱。批评，是他们雕琢璞玉、点亮心灯的利器。学生犯错，老师轻拍其背，言辞恳切，既指出错处，又寄予厚望，那是一份沉甸甸的责任与爱。而今，这一幕似乎变得不再寻常。老师的一句批评，竟能引来学生及家长的不满风暴，仿佛那轻轻的一句责备，是对孩子幼小心灵的莫大伤害，是对家庭尊严的无情践踏。于是，批评成了谨言慎行的雷区，教育者的口吻变得温和而模糊，生怕一不小心，就触动了那根敏感的神经。

再看医疗领域，医师，本应是悬壶济世、救死扶伤的天使，他们的每一句叮咛，每一个建议，都是基于专业与关怀。然而，当医师面对患者的不当行为，试图以批评教育的方式引导其走向健康之路时，却常常遭遇患者及家属的强烈反弹。仿佛医生的一句忠告，成了对个人选择的不尊重，对家庭决策的干涉。医患关系，这本应是最纯粹的信任与托付，却在批评的阴影下，蒙上了一层薄薄的冰霜。

我们不禁要问，这究竟是怎么了？难道“天地君亲师”的古训，已随风而逝，连为师者教育批评的权利和义务，也要在这新时代的洪流中黯然失色吗？难道消费者真的要被捧成旧社会的皇上，说不得、批不得，任何一点逆耳之言，都要被视为大不敬吗？

记得有一位老教师，他曾这样感慨：“以前的学生，批评了，会红着脸低头，心里憋着劲儿要改好；现在的学生，批评了，会瞪着眼反驳，心里想着凭什么要我受这委屈。”这变化，何尝不是社会风气变迁的缩影？我们过度强调了“尊重”与“自由”，却忽视了“责任”与“担当”。我们害怕伤害，却忘了成长往往伴随着阵痛。

再看医院，一位年轻医生无奈地说：“有时候，患者明明需要改变生活习惯，可我一提建议，家属就跳脚，好像我成了恶人。”这背后，是健康教育的缺失，还是对医疗建议的过度解读？我们追求“以人为本”，却忘了“以人为本”的前提是理性与科学的态度。

诚然，批评不应成为简单粗暴的代名词，它应当是基于爱与责任的真诚对话。但同样，接受批评，也是成长路上不可或缺的一课。我们不能因为害怕风雨，就拒绝让树苗经历风雨的洗礼；我们不能因为担心误解，就放弃传递真知的勇气。

想必这种不正常的状态，是不会长久的。因为历史的车轮滚滚向前，它总会纠正那些偏离轨道的瞬间。当批评不再是禁忌，当接受批评成为常态，我们的教育才会更加坚实有力，我们的医疗才会更加温暖人心。让我们携手，让批评回归它应有的位置，让成长与进步，在批评与自我批评的土壤中，茁壮成长。

作者简介：梁世杰 中医高年资主治医师，本科学历，从事中医临床工作24年，积累了较丰富的临床经验。师从首都医科大学附属北京中医院肝病科主任医师、著名老中医陈勇，侍诊多载，深得器重，尽得真传！擅用“商汤经方分类疗法”、专病专方结合“焦树德学术思想”“关幼波十纲辨证”学术思想治疗疑难杂症为特色。现任北京树德堂中医研究院研究员，北京中医药薪火传承新3+3工程—焦树德门人（陈勇）传承工作站研究员，国际易联易学与养生专委会常务理事，中国中医药研究促进会焦树德学术传承专业委员会委员，中国药文化研究会中医药慢病防治分会首批癌症领域入库专家。荣获2020年中国中医药研究促进会仲景医学分会举办的第八届医圣仲景南阳论坛“经方名医”荣誉称号。2023年首届京津冀“扁鹊杯”燕赵医学研究主题征文优秀奖获得者。事迹入选《当代科学家》杂志、《中华英才》杂志。

I don't know when criticism became "taboo."

On the grand stage of this era, a series of dramas are quietly staged. One of them, a play called "Criticism and Dissatisfaction," is slowly unfolding in our lives in a way that is both laughable and ridiculous. It is not known when criticism, which has been regarded as an indispensable "remedy" in the fields of education and medicine since ancient times, has quietly become a taboo that cannot be touched.

In the past, teachers were responsible for passing on knowledge, solving problems, and guiding students. They held the key to knowledge in their hands and carried the enthusiasm for educating people in their hearts. Criticism was their sharp tool for shaping jade and lighting the heart lamp. When students made mistakes, teachers gently patted them on the back, spoke sincerely, pointed out the mistakes, and expressed high hopes. It was a heavy responsibility and love. Now, this scene seems no longer common. A teacher's criticism can lead to a storm of dissatisfaction from students and parents, as if that gentle rebuke is a great harm to a child's tender mind and an inhumane trampling of family dignity. Therefore, criticism has become a no-go area for careful speech, and the tone of educators has become gentle and vague, afraid of accidentally touching that sensitive nerve.

In the medical field, doctors, who are supposed to be angels who cure the sick and save lives, base every word of advice on professionalism and care. However, when doctors face patients' inappropriate behavior and try to guide them towards a healthy path through criticism and education, they often encounter strong resistance from patients and their families. It seems that a doctor's advice has become a lack of respect for personal choices and interference in family decisions. The doctor-patient relationship, which should be the purest trust and entrustment, is covered with a thin layer of frost under the shadow of criticism.

We can't help but ask, what's going on? Has the ancient saying of "Heaven, Earth, Emperor, Father, and Teacher" disappeared with the wind, and even the right and obligation of teachers to educate and criticize will fade in the current tide of the new era? Must consumers really be treated like the emperor of the old society, who cannot be criticized or criticized, and any unpleasant words must be regarded as great disrespect?

I remember an old teacher who once said, "In the past, when students were criticized, they would turn red in the face, lower their heads, and feel a strong desire to improve; now, when students are criticized, they will glare and refute, thinking why should I bear this injustice." This change is not an epitome of the change in social atmosphere? We have overemphasized "respect" and "freedom," but have neglected "responsibility" and "dedication." We are afraid of harm, but we forget that growth often comes with pain.

Looking at the hospital again, a young doctor helplessly said, "Sometimes, patients clearly need to change their living habits, but when I make a suggestion, the family members get angry, as if I have become a villain." Behind this, is there a lack of health education, or an over-interpretation of medical advice? We pursue "people-oriented", but we forget that the premise of "people-oriented" is a rational and scientific attitude.

It is true that criticism should not be the synonym of rudeness; it should be a sincere dialogue based on love and responsibility. However, accepting criticism is also an indispensable lesson on the road to growth. We cannot refuse to let the seedling experience the baptism of wind and rain because we are afraid of the wind and rain; we cannot give up the courage to convey the truth because we are afraid of misunderstanding.

I believe that this abnormal state will not last long. Because the wheel of history rolls forward, it will always correct those moments that deviate from the track. When criticism is no longer taboo, and when accepting criticism becomes the norm, our education will be more solid and powerful, and our medical care will be more heartwarming. Let's work together to put criticism back in its rightful place, and let growth and progress thrive in the soil of criticism and self-criticism.

Author Bio: Liang Shijie is a senior medical practitioner in traditional Chinese medicine with an undergraduate degree. He has been engaged in traditional medicine clinical work for 24 years and has accumulated a wealth of clinical experience. Following Chen Yong, chief physician of liver disease at Beijing Traditional Medicine Hospital, affiliated with Capital Medical University, and renowned old Chinese medicine, he has been treated for many years and received great attention. He specializes in the treatment of difficult diseases using "conversational traditional therapy" and special treatments combined with the academic ideas of Jiao Shude and Guan Yubo's ten-level diagnosis.He is currently a researcher at the Shude Tang TCM Research Institute in Beijing, a fellow at the new 3 + 3 project of traditional Chinese medicine flame inheritance in Beijing - a scholar at the inheritance workstation of Jiao Shude's protégés (Chen Yong),He is a standing committee member of the International Expert Committee on E-learning and Health Care, a member of the Jiao Shude Academic Heritage Special Committee of the Chinese Association for the Advancement of Chinese Medicine Research, and the first cancer specialist to be included in the chapter of the Chinese Pharmaceutical Culture Research Association. Won the 2020 China Association for the Promotion of Traditional Chinese Medicine Zhongjing Medical Branch held the eighth session of the Medical Saint Zhongjing Nanyang Forum "Classic Prescription Famous Doctor" honorary title. The winner of the first Beijing-Tianjin-Hebei "Pingui Cup" Yanzhao Medical Research Essay Award in 2023. His work was featured in the journal Current Scientist and the journal Chinese Talent.

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