摘要：不知你是否发现，一个人无论年龄多大，无论看起来多么顶天立地，无论是否已成家立业，只要父母健在，他们就永远是长不大的孩子，就可以感受到来自父母最无私、最深沉、最厚重的爱。
2025年5月15日，今天是第32个世界家庭日。
自1994年起，联合国宣布将每年的5月15日定为世界家庭日，呼吁人们关注家庭问题、重视家庭氛围、构建幸福家庭。
什么是家？
白居易在《种桃杏》中对家有这样的描述：
无论海角与天涯，大抵心安即是家。
家国情怀千百年来流淌在中华民族的血液里，不曾褪色。
家，是火车到站后拨通的第一个电话，是深夜归来时等待你的灯光，是饥肠辘辘时精心张罗的饭菜，是一个人内心最深的牵绊、最温暖的港湾……
人这一生有家做靠山，我们的内心便永远温暖，永远柔软。
父母之爱
身体发肤，受之父母，不敢毁伤，孝之始也。——《孝经》
《诗经·蓼莪》里说：“哀哀父母，生我劬劳”，他们的一生都在为儿女操劳。
不知你是否发现，一个人无论年龄多大，无论看起来多么顶天立地，无论是否已成家立业，只要父母健在，他们就永远是长不大的孩子，就可以感受到来自父母最无私、最深沉、最厚重的爱。
老舍先生曾说：
“人，即使活到八九十岁，有母亲便可以多少还有点孩子气，失了慈母便像花插在瓶子里，虽然还有色有香，却失去了根。有母亲的人，心里是安定的。”
曾在网上看到一位父亲在女儿婚礼上的致辞，他对新郎说：“第一个抱她的人，是我不是你；第一个亲她的人，是我不是你；第一个爱护她的人，是我不是你。而能陪伴她一生的人，我希望是你。不过，如果有天你不爱她了，你不要跟她说，跟我说，我会带她回来。”
我们曾以为，只有在我们是孩子时才需要父母的照顾。
后来才明白，原来人这一生，都需要父母。
你年少时，需要他们的教育和培养；你年长后，需要他们见证你的成长和辉煌，又或者在你人生最挫败时，需要他们对你的不离不弃。
有人说，父母在，人生尚有来处；父母去，人生只剩归途。
所以，请善待你的父母，父母在处，永远是游子衣锦还乡的坐标。02
养育之思
见人初解语呕哑，不肯归眠恋小车——唐代·韦庄《与小女》
父母之爱子，则为其计深远。
南宋袁采《世范》中也有记载：'子弟童稚之年，父母师长严者，异日多贤'。
孩子劳神伤财，又伤筋动骨；不断为孩子筹谋，有了始终割舍不断的牵挂和担心；失去了很多自由，失去了许多潇洒的底气，甚至还为他忍受过许多无奈和委屈……
那既然如此，为什么我们还那么需要孩子呢？
我们需要孩子，需要他们帮我们找回童心，找回好奇心，找回最单纯的快乐和初心；
我们需要孩子，因为他们可以成为我们内心最柔软的一部分，让我们在繁忙的工作之外能找到人生的安慰和支撑；
从辛弃疾“最喜小儿亡赖，溪头卧剥莲蓬”，方悟陶渊明'童孙绕膝慰平生'的真谛。
有人曾说，孩子经常不知道，父母有多么爱他们。其实，父母可能也常常不知道，你的孩子究竟有多爱你。
珍惜你和孩子在一起的美好时光吧，抽空多陪陪他们。
因为岁月从不待人。
何当共剪西窗烛，却话巴山夜雨时。——唐代·李商隐《夜雨寄北》
周易上说：二人同心，其利断金。
网上有个问题：什么情况下，你才更懂得伴侣的重要性？
有个高赞的回答说：在升职后踌躇满志却无人倾诉时，在良辰美景却无人分享时，在生病了急需一杯温开水时，在人生低谷最需要陪伴和鼓励时。
其实，即使你的另一半再完美，生活中都会有许多矛盾，需要互相包容、理解和体谅。
于大多数人而言，婚姻是一种风雨同舟的承担，是一份有福同享、有难同当的承诺，也是一种有人问你粥可温、有人与你立黄昏的平淡相守。
看过这样一句话：“婚姻的纽带，不是孩子，不是金钱，而是精神的共同成长。”
在你最无助和软弱的时候，在你最沮丧和落魄的时候，有一个人扳直你的脊梁，要求你坚强，并陪伴你左右，共同面对风风雨雨。
这一生，执子之手、与子偕老，不嫌你老眼昏花、不嫌你两鬓斑白，依旧与你朝夕相处、冷暖与共的人，就是你该珍惜的伴侣。
家国同构：灯火可亲处即是吾乡
父子笃，兄弟睦，夫妇和，家之肥也。——《礼记》
曾看到这样一句话：
家是月光下的倾诉，家是夕阳里的搀扶，家是一副重担，也是一份责任，家是真正能让你觉得温暖、自由、放松的地方。
家，是责任，因为有柴米油盐，我们要承担；家，是重担，因为我们要穷尽一生，努力去经营它！
家里有我们最爱的人，也有最爱我们的人。
家里有我们的父母双亲，有我们的伴侣和孩子，他们都是这个世界陪伴我们最久的人。
陪着父母共进一日三餐，有说有笑，有谦有让，就是最好的年华。
陪着爱人共度一年四季，互相周全，不离不弃，就是最美的岁月。
一生一世一个家，我们一定要好好经营它。
有爱融入的家，才不会冰冷，有情呵护的家，才不会凉薄。
家，需要我们每一个人都当成自己最宝贵的东西，去呵护，去珍惜！
这样，才能让家有家的模样。
家，应该是最让人内心温暖的地方，所以你我一定要少说狠话，多包容；
家，应该是最让人心情放松的地方，所以你我一定要少去苛责，多鼓励。
男人看似无坚不摧，其实内心也有软肋；女人看似柔情似水，其实心里也有伤疤。
男人爱女人，家才和睦；女人疼男人，家才甜蜜。家，是需要互相付出的，每一个人都要为之努力，唯有共同建设，才能一直繁华；唯有齐心协力，才能兴旺发达！
关注诗词天地，愿你绿叶素荣，纷其可喜，家和万事兴！
May 15, 2025, marks the 32nd World Family Day. Since 1994, the United Nations has designated May 15th as World Family Day, calling on people to pay attention to family issues, value family atmosphere, and build happy families.
What is a home?
Bai Juyi described home in Planting Peaches and Apricots: "No matter the cape or the horizon, peace of mind is home." The sentiment of family and country has flowed in the blood of the Chinese nation for thousands of years, never fading.
Home is the first call you make when the train arrives, the light waiting for you when you return late at night, the carefully prepared meal when you are hungry. It is the deepest bond and warmest harbor in one's heart...
With home as our support in life, our hearts will always be warm and soft.
Parental Love
"One's body and skin are gifts from parents, and one should not dare to damage them — this is the beginning of filial piety." — The Classic of Filial Piety
The Book of Songs·Liaoe says: "Alas, my parents, who toiled to give me life." They spend their entire lives working for their children.
Have you ever noticed that no matter how old someone is, how indomitable they seem, or whether they have started a family, as long as their parents are alive, they will always be children at heart, able to feel the most selfless, profound, and heavy love from their parents.
Lao She once said: "Even at eighty or ninety, one can still be a bit childlike with a mother. Losing a loving mother is like a flower in a vase — still colorful and fragrant, but without roots. Those with a mother have peace in their hearts."
I once saw a father's speech at his daughter's wedding online. He said to the groom: "The first person to hold her was me, not you; the first person to kiss her was me, not you; the first person to love her was me, not you. But the one who can accompany her for life, I hope it's you. However, if one day you no longer love her, don't tell her — tell me, and I will take her home."
We used to think we only needed our parents' care when we were children.
Later, we realized that we need our parents our entire lives.
When you are young, you need their education and nurturing; when you are older, you need them to witness your growth and glory, or to stand by you during your darkest moments of failure.
Someone said: "When parents are alive, there is still a place to return to in life; when parents are gone, only the journey ahead remains."
Therefore, be kind to your parents. Where parents are, there will always be a coordinate for wanderers to return in glory.
The Thought of Parenting
"Seeing the child first learn to babble, she refuses to sleep and clings to her cart." — Wei Zhuang (Tang Dynasty), With My Little Daughter
"A parent's love for a child means planning far ahead for them."
Yuan Cai's Lessons for the World in the Southern Song Dynasty also states: "Children raised strictly by parents and teachers in their youth will often become virtuous in the future."
Raising children can be laborious, costly, and even physically exhausting; it involves constant planning, an unbreakable bond of concern, loss of freedom, and even enduring无奈 (helplessness) and grievances...
So why do we still need children?
We need children to help us regain our childlike innocence, curiosity, and the purest joy and初心 (original heart).
We need children because they become the softest part of our hearts, offering comfort and support in the midst of busy work.
From Xin Qiji's "Most beloved is the naughty youngest, lying by the brook peeling lotus seeds," we understand Tao Yuanming's "Grandchildren around my knees comfort my life."
Someone once said: Children often do not know how much their parents love them. In fact, parents may often not know how much their children love them.
Cherish the beautiful moments with your children and spend more time with them, for time waits for no one.
"When can we trim the wick together by the west window and talk about the autumn rain in Bashan?" — Li Shangyin (Tang Dynasty), Night Rain Message to the North
The Book of Changes says: "When two hearts are united, their strength can break gold."
There is a question online: When do you truly understand the importance of a partner?
A highly upvoted answer reads: When you are full of ambition after a promotion but have no one to share it with; when there is a beautiful scene but no one to enjoy it with; when you are sick and urgently need a glass of warm water; when you are at the lowest point in life and need company and encouragement.
In reality, even if your partner is perfect, there will be many conflicts in life that require mutual tolerance, understanding, and consideration.
For most people, marriage is a shared responsibility through thick and thin, a promise to share joys and sorrows, and a平淡相守 (plain and steady companionship) where someone asks if your porridge is warm and stands with you at dusk.
I once read: "The bond of marriage is not children or money, but shared spiritual growth."
When you are most helpless and vulnerable, most frustrated and down, there is someone who straightens your back, urges you to be strong, and stays by your side to face storms together.
In this life, the one who holds your hand, grows old with you, does not嫌弃 (dislike) your dim eyes or gray hair, and still stays with you day and night, sharing warmth and cold, is the partner you should cherish.
Family and Country as One: Where Lights Are Warm, There Is Home
"When father and son are sincere, brothers are harmonious, and husband and wife are united, the family thrives." — The Book of Rites
I once read:
Home is a place for moonlight conversations, support at sunset, a burden, and a responsibility. It is a place where you truly feel warm, free, and relaxed.
Home is a responsibility because we must bear the burden of daily chores; home is a heavy load because we must strive to manage it all our lives!
In home, there are those we love the most and those who love us the most.
In home, there are our parents, partners, and children — those who accompany us the longest in this world.
Sharing three meals a day with parents, chatting and laughing with humility and respect, is the best time of life.
Spending the four seasons with a loved one, supporting each other and never leaving, is the most beautiful journey.
One home for a lifetime — we must manage it well.
A home infused with love is not cold; a home cared for with affection is not indifferent.
Home needs to be cherished by each of us as our most precious treasure.
Only then can home truly be home.
Home should be the warmest place for the heart, so let us speak fewer harsh words and be more tolerant;
Home should be the most relaxing place for the mind, so let us criticize less and encourage more.
Men may seem indestructible, but they have inner weaknesses; women may seem tender, but they have scars in their hearts.
When men love women, the family is harmonious; when women care for men, the family is sweet. Home requires mutual giving, and everyone must strive for it. Only through joint construction can it thrive; only through unity can it prosper!
Pay attention to Poetry World. May you be like green leaves with pure blossoms, delightful and harmonious, and may your family be prosperous in all things!
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