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生活中，不知道你有没有遇到这样的情况：

In life, I don't know if you have encountered such a situation:

父母总是不愿意扔掉的旧衣物，你便和他们争得面红耳赤；

Old clothes that parents are always unwilling to throw away, you argue with them until you turn red with anger;

丈夫带孩子出去玩摔了跟头，你只顾着斥责他没看管好孩子，却忘了他心里更自责；

The husband took the child out to play and stumbled, and you only scolded him for not taking good care of the child, but forgot that he felt even more guilty in his heart;

妻子给你做好了晚饭，你却嫌弃菜炒得太咸，忽略了她的辛苦……

My wife has prepared dinner for you, but you find the dishes too salty and ignore her hard work

《菜根谭》里讲：

In 'Caigen Tan', it says:

家人有过，不宜暴怒，不宜轻弃。

If family members have experienced it, it is not advisable to be angry or give up lightly.

家是讲爱的地方，不是情绪的垃圾场。

Home is a place of love, not a dumping ground for emotions.

不要以为关系亲，就可以拿起言语的刀子，举起情绪的垃圾，扔向家人。

Don't think that just because you are close, you can pick up the knife of words, lift up the garbage of emotions, and throw it at your family.

多说舒心的话，家庭的幸福感才会提升。

Saying more comforting words will enhance the happiness of the family.

在民国夫妻中，胡适和江冬秀一直是别具一格的一类。

Among the couples of the Republic of China, Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu have always been a unique type.

江冬秀不算貌美，脸圆圆的，但胡适却说：她很贤惠，善于操持家务。

Jiang Dongxiu is not particularly beautiful, with a round face, but Hu Shi said: she is very virtuous and good at managing household chores.

江冬秀没什么学问，大字不识几个，但胡适却说：她文化低，但很爱学习。

Jiang Dongxiu doesn't have much knowledge and doesn't know many big characters, but Hu Shi said: she has a low level of education, but she loves learning very much.

江冬秀特别喜欢打麻将，但胡适却说：她很善良，懂得仗义疏财。

Jiang Dongxiu particularly likes playing mahjong, but Hu Shi said: she is very kind and knows how to donate money.

因为胡适从不吝啬对妻子的赞美，二人才能执子之手，共度白头。

Because Hu Shi never hesitated to praise his wife, the two of them were able to hold hands and spend their white hair together.

生活中，多用欣赏的眼光去看待家人，多用舒心的话语去宽慰对方，很多琐碎的摩擦都会在无形中化解。

In life, view family members with an appreciative perspective and comfort them with comforting words. Many trivial frictions can be resolved invisibly.

来源：三月流焱